With all the pain, suffering, and tragedy in this world I am amazed at how much credit it gets. One can scroll through their Facebook newsfeed or Pinterest to pick up such pearls as “Stars can’t shine without darkness.”, “The hardest times lead to the greatest moments.”, or “Adversity is opportunity disguised.”
And all of these statements are meant to comfort those in the midst of great trial or depression. To be the metaphorical light at the end of the tunnel for anyone who is moments away from giving up. Personally, I have no desire to give justification for my trials. And as I was scrolling through pages of motivational memes on Google, it hit me that there is an unsung hero in all these cute proverbs. Something which, in its absence, leaves each of these mini pep talks meaningless. And that missing truth is love.
Struggle and pain without love is just the birth place of bitterness. Sadly, we have all witnessed this horrible reality, and at worst lived it. And the fact is, adversity does not deserve the credit. Suffering and loss are not the great gurus of personal growth and character development.
Love is. Sacrificial, unrestricted, relentless, autogenous, merciful, and steadfast love. Love that flows in to and out of. And when it is tangibly demonstrated, in grand and subtle ways, it can turn darkness to light.
The predictable text each night checking to make sure you are ok. The understanding at coffee for unexpected tears. Patience shown for a little boys outburst. The persistence to keep reaching out even after another ‘no’. Flexibility extended because you are a new single parent. An army of people committed and ready to carry you, day in and day out.
THIS is what allows us to walk through tragedy. THIS is what love looks like when it is lived out. And THIS kind of love, is the reason why the “Hardships prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.” claims have any relevance.